What constitutes a bad mother

I have to stop myself from saying "I'm such a bad mother" because I'm not a bad mother. I was too tired to burp Cooper during his 2:30 am feeding so I just laid him down afterwards. I woke up for the 5:30 am feeding and he had spit up all over himself and his bassinet. He laid in spit up for nearly 3 hours and I felt awful.



Then, the other day I decided to lay down for the last 45 minutes of Cooper's nap. We were sleeping in the same room. The next thing I know Chris is shaking me awake and holding Cooper who is crying. I ask if he is already awake. Chris says that he has been crying for 10 minutes. My baby was crying for 10 minutes in the same room as me and I didn't hear it?? I hear every little peep he makes and I can even hear him breathing when I wake up. I must have been exhausted!



All I have to say is that these things do not constitute a bad mother, just a tired one. Like Emmy says, if I didn't care that he laid in spit up for 3 hours or if I left him in his swing for an hour and went to the bar, then that would constitute a bad mother. Thank goodness Cooper has a daddy to pick up the slack when his mommy is just too tired.