Sunday, November 30, 2014

Randoms

We have nearly finished our leftover turkey.  Turkey sandwiches, Pecan/Cranberry/Turkey Salad with Orange Poppyseed Dressing, Turkey Pot Pie, Turkey Noodle Soup.  Not bad for a 20 lb bird I bought that originally fed 3 adults and 2 children.

Today I drove by my childhood home – the one when life was most chaotic.  It’s tiny.  I remember it being small, but not that small.  It’s listed as 735 square feet.  I felt anxiety…and dissonance.  I drove a few blocks further to my other childhood home – the one my dad died in.  I only felt sadness.

On Friday I got my A Tree Grows in Brooklyn inspired tattoo on my ribs/back.  I would post a picture, but it really needs to heal a bit so I can show off the detail.  It looks more amazing every day.

November is National Adoption Awareness Month.  You can read Charlotte’s Adoption Story here.

We put up the tree and brought out Mr. Elf over the last couple of days.  The tree has a proper top hat.

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My new snowman ornament this year:

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Charlotte picked Mater and Cooper picked a pencil.  I bought them a soccer ball.

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Chris got Star Wars themed ornaments.

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And Mr. Elf seems to like my new animal décor I bought when we went camping in Ouray.DSC_0804jpeg

Saturday, November 29, 2014

Bookworm

I am a list maker.  I often find myself adding 5 things to the list for every one I check off.  I am a bookworm.  I read somewhere around 70-80 books a year, which means I keep a long list of books to read.  If I was a librarian or worked at a book store I would probably be fired for reading instead of doing my job.  I need more life to live so I can read all the books. 

In no particular order, and not sorted by any genre, here is my latest list of BOOKS TO READ:

  1. Touching the Void
  2. The Climb
  3. Call the Midwife
  4. Brainstorm:  The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain
  5. The Giver 
  6. Situations Matter:  Understanding How Context Transforms Your World
  7. Mindset:  The New Psychology of Success
  8. Riding in Cars with Black People & Other Newly Dangerous Acts:  A Memoir in Vanishing Whiteness
  9. Intuition Pumps and Other Tools for Thinking
  10. Self Portrait as Your Traitor
  11. Time Warped
  12. This Explains Everything:  Deep, Beautiful, and Elegant Theories of How the World Works
  13. On Looking:  A Walker’s Guide to the Art of Observation
  14. Dreamland:  Adventures in the Strange Science of Sleep
  15. Tales From the Perilous Realm
  16. Mapping of Human History:  Genes, Race, and Our Common Origins
  17. The Tender Bar: A Memoir
  18. A Short History of Nearly Everything
  19. A Walk in the Woods:  Rediscovering America on the Appalachian Trail
  20. Life and Times of the Thunderbolt Kid:  A Memoir
  21. I’m a Stranger Here Myself:  Notes on Returning to America After 20 Years Away
  22. Before I Go to Sleep:  A Novel
  23. Above All Men
  24. The Name of the Wind (Kingkiller Chronicle #1)
  25. The Wise Man’s Fear (Kingkiller Chronicle #2)
  26. The Tree of Liberty
  27. 1493:  Uncovering the New World Columbus Created
  28. Foundation by Isaac Asimov
  29. Poor Economics
  30. Nickel and Dimed
  31. Wolf Hall
  32. Bring Up the Bodies
  33. The Sex Lives of Cannibals
  34. Getting Stoned with Savages
  35. The Art of Racing in the Rain
  36. The Dove Keepers
  37.  Syndrome E
  38.  The Book Thief
  39.  11/22/63
  40.  The Night Circus
  41.  Alif the Unseen
  42.  The Fever Series
  43.   Joseph Anton
  44.   Far From the Tree:  Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity
  45.   The Painted Girls
  46.   She Woke
  47.   Before I go to sleep
  48.   Shift (Wool Book #2)
  49.   Dust (Wool Book #3)
  50.   Letters to a Young Scientist
  51.   This Will Make You Smarter:  New Scientific Concepts to Improve Your Thinking

Friday, November 28, 2014

Last year of Santa?

Cooper asked me the other day if Santa is really real.  I told him I thought so, because I believe in magic.  He seemed to accept that answer but this might be the last year for Mr. Elf and Santa.  That makes me a little sad.

Thursday, November 27, 2014

Thanksgiving

We stayed home this year and only had a couple of visitors, my sister (Charlotte's birth mom) and Gigi.  I spent 5 hours cooking food that was delicious and then we watched Harry Potter Chamber of Secrets because we finished reading book 2.  I fell asleep and took a long late nap.  It was a fantastic day.

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Microwave drama

In other non-important first world problems, we had to buy a new microwave.  The magnetometer went out on our 4 year old microwave, which just means that it stopped heating and cooking food.  We found it that it would cost $500 to replace the part vs. $150-$300 for a new microwave.  In the meantime we brought the one from the basement upstairs, which is about 7 years old. 

We went to Best Buy because it’s convenient and we’ve accumulated enough coupons/points/whatever thing they offer to make it the best deal.  We pick one out, and they tell us it will take about two weeks for delivery.  The plan is that it would be here the Friday before Thanksgiving.

On Thursday before it’s supposed to be here, Chris receives a phone call from Best Buy telling him that the microwave wouldn’t be in the next day, but would be in the Friday AFTER Thanksgiving.  Welp, okay that’s not going to work.  I use the microwave during Thanksgiving and I need the counter space the one we have is currently taking up.  So Chris walks the guy through his options: 1) The microwave needs to be here by Wednesday before Thanksgiving AND 2) We need a discount of at least $100 because now we have to install it ourselves OR 3) Cancel the order and refund our money.  The guy stumbles and Chris says, I’ll have time to wait for you to solve this for me.  If you can’t solve it, I won’t be buying that TV over there from Best Buy.

So the guy figures out he can ORDER IT ONLINE and have it shipped to arrive Monday and he gave us a $125 credit, which covered a 10 year warranty on the magnetometer.  Good, great, awesome.  Chris goes on Monday to pick it up and IT WASN’T THERE.  They took it out on a truck accidentally (??) and told Chris to come back a few hours later to pick it up.  Finally Chris gets the microwave home.

Our friend Mikael came over to help Chris install it and he opens the box to find out that THE MICROWAVE IS DENTED.  I just threw my hands in the air while some profanity tumbled out of my mouth, and said a small thank you that the kids were in their rooms. 

Chris called a local company, Appliance Factory Outlet, and they had a similar model available at their Westminster store.  So Chris and Mikael drove up there and brought home a non-dented, working microwave and installed it.  I have a microwave and counter space for Thanksgiving and we won’t be shopping at Best Buy for any major purchases again.

(I also have it good authority that you shouldn’t buy cameras directly from Olympus because you have to wait longer than 2 months and still never get your camera.)

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

The Talk

My children ask amazing questions and our family discussions are rich and dynamic.  We believe in being honest with our children and present our answers in logical ways with facts clearly stated differently than opinions.  We have discussed history, equality, where our food comes from, human reproduction, pregnancy, breastfeeding, death of a loved one (and mourning/death ritual), religion and everything in between. 

We don’t watch any news in our household, but Chris and I regularly discuss current events over dinner.  We’ve never given any thought as to what events are appropriate or not.  Chris and I also discuss privilege in our household quite a bit.  That our kids benefit from significant economic privilege that is sometimes so foreign to me I find myself bothered by it.  That Chris experiences male privilege which allows him to run at night, not worry about how he will be viewed based on how he dresses, or be constantly told to smile.  That as Atheists we are viewed as lacking in morals.  That as white Americans, our starting line is already far beyond people of color.  That we won’t ever have to have ‘The Talk’ with our son.

Did you know my friend from high school has to talk to her boys about not walking through their neighborhood at night or wearing a hoodie outside the house?  I have never considered telling Cooper he can’t do these things.  In fact, I have purposely not talked to my children directly about Trayvon Martin or Michael Brown because I want to insulate them and hold onto their innocence. It occurred to me today that my children are afforded insulation of their innocence because of racial privilege, and perhaps I have a duty to also have ‘The Talk’ with my children.  I mean there are women who have to tell their children that the police won’t help them and may in fact kill them, and I want to insulate my children? 

Not talking about it doesn’t improve the disparity.  I don’t know what this will look like, but I want to tell them they need to see skin color because their peers are treated differently based on the color of their skin.  I want them to ask hard questions about race.

I told my husband that I need him to be as passionate, as loud, as angry as I am when it comes to sexism because it is his gender in power.  I need him to be my ally, to be Charlotte’s ally, because right now his voice will be heard and mine won’t.  It’s time for me to do the same for those who don’t benefit from race privilege.  Our country is based on the ideals of equality and justice for all, and from where I’m sitting, we still have a very long way to go for economic/wealth, religion, gender, sexual preference, and race equality and justice.  Change will happen with those who benefit from privilege stand with those who do not.

Monday, November 24, 2014

Outraged and Heartbroken

I sometimes wonder if the human race is the most broken species that can exist.  Humans are selfish and mean and horrible.  To each other, to planet Earth.  I just sometimes feel like giving up on any hope that we are capable of redeeming ourselves.  This probably means I need to take a break from politics and news.

The two things that I am most outraged and heartbroken about in the last week:

That a young woman can be gang raped by 7 men and a beer bottle, and a the school administration does nothing.  Her friends do nothing.  And, she isn’t the only one, that it has been an ongoing issue for decades.

That our justice system has failed to provide justice to black boys murdered in cold blood for nothing other than being black.  I don’t know what to say to mothers and fathers of black boys other than, I BELIEVE YOUR CHILD’S LIFE IS AS IMPORTANT AS MY CHILD’S LIFE.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Ice Cream in Snow Tornadoes

Dessert night is only on Fridays in our house.  It teaches sugar in moderation and that food isn't a reward, but mostly we do it to end all arguments before they start.  The answer to "can I have dessert" is always, "Is it Friday?"

I told the kids that because Chris and I had date night on Friday, that we could go for dessert on Saturday.  I should have just been vague and said 'this weekend'.  The whole day just ran late and we didn't eat dinner until 7:00 pm, with bedtime normally at 8 pm.  I just couldn't imagine sending my kids to bed after pumping them full of sugar, so I told them we would move it to this afternoon.  Melt downs ensued, but I held firm.

So of course this afternoon it started snowing and I had already promised ice cream. We trudged through the cold snow to go have cold ice cream.  Cooper said we should always eat ice cream in snow tornadoes.  I don't think I agree, but I had a good afternoon with my kiddos.

Friday, November 21, 2014

Tired and busy

Blogging late to say I will blog tomorrow.  We have had a busy day.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

America isn’t really Asia

Cooper:  Mommy, do you know how they found America?

Me:  How?

Cooper:  They sent 3 boats to Asia, but it wasn’t actually Asia.  It was America!

Me:  [stifled laughter] Yep, that’s pretty much what happened.

Charlotte:  Who discovered America?

Me:  Well the Native Americans already lived here so there wasn’t really a discovery, but the Europeans finally realized there were the North and South American continents.  They used to think the world was flat, so they were afraid to take a boat on the water in case they fell off the end of the Earth.  Then they realized the world was round and a lot bigger than they thought.

Charlotte:  What?  The world is round!  It’s a globe!  It’s not flat!

Me:  Remember how it looks flat when you stand at the ocean?

Cooper:  But it’s not really flat and America isn’t really Asia.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

642 Things to Write About

I bought a book earlier this year titled, 642 Things to Write About. I have wanted to do some writing that requires me to use a pen and paper because I think it’s important to work on my handwriting, and I don’t often get the chance to do so being on the computer all the time; plus, pen and paper requires me to slow down and think as I write.  Another reason is that it is something I can keep private.  Although I am fairly open on my blogs, I will sometimes begin to feel too exposed and withdraw, which makes me feel less authentic, and leads to not enjoying writing via my blogs.

I have read many of the questions in the book and I have bookmarked several that inspire me:

  • The difference between the first death you remember and the most recent one (my mom’s dad, my grandfather; and my mother)
  • The moment you knew you were no longer a child (when my foster mother and the social worker told me I needed to learn how to be a kid, at age 11)
  • Think of an object that describes you.  Describe it.  (this one is a hard one and I haven’t come up with an answer yet)
  • What does Writer’s Block feel like (perhaps this blog post?)
  • Your most treasured photograph (it’s hard to chose one, but I think I know which one and will have to share why on another blog post)

There are so many good things to inspire me to write more and, yet, I haven’t written anything down.  Well, I figured I would tackle one electronically that is related to technology.  Maybe by starting, I will write more.

Google search your own name.  Write about the search result that is the closest to your name, but isn’t you.

Well first of all I don’t know why I ever feel exposed on my blog.  If you google my name there are 3 pages of results of ME, before you find something that isn’t about me.  I have sort of approached my online presence as something that is part of the world we live in these days and once enough people are online, we all become anonymous again anyhow.  Perhaps I’m taking a risk by having so much of myself out there, perhaps not.  I don’t really worry too much about it.

The first item that comes up, but isn’t me, is a request for donations for starving, abused children outside Salinas, CA from March 2014.  The donations were being handled by Susan Derichsweiler, the President of Hartnell College Foster & Kinship Care Education, an organization that works with Monterey County Department of Social Services.

Google’s algorithm is pretty darn good!  It pulled together elements I have written about in public places (and done a google search on) – disadvantaged children, poverty, abuse, kinship care/adoption, social services, foster care, and of course my name.  However, I am impressed with the coincidence that there is a S. Derichsweiler, who works in a field that so closely relates to prominent things in my life, and lives in a city that is more or less my name.

The story itself is very sad.  There were three children, ages 8 (girl), 5 (boy), and 3 (boy), who were found in a home, with the oldest chained to the floor and wall with shackles from her neck and ankles to prevent her from accessing food.  The two adult women in the home were the adoptive parents of the oldest two, and the youngest was the biological child of one of the women.  The women were taken into custody, awaiting hearings on felony charges including child cruelty, child endangerment of causing great bodily injury, torture, and false imprisonment.  Additionally, animal control rescued 14 animals, including: 3 dogs, 3 fish, 6 cats, 1 bird, and 1 goat.

I can’t find an updated article discussing the outcome, but the children were placed in foster care (separate homes).  I am thankful for those individuals who realized the children had missed several appointments and asked the sheriff to do a welfare check.

The first article I found had a list of warning signs for child abuse or neglect from the Mayo Clinic:

  • Unexplained injuries, such as bruising or burns, especially in the shape of objects.
  • Behavioral changes. Child may appear scared, anxious, depressed, withdrawn or more aggressive.
  • Return of earlier behaviors, like thumb-sucking, bed-wetting, fear of the dark or strangers. Some children may experience language or memory loss.
  • Fear of going home.
  • Changes in eating patterns characterized by rapid weight gain or loss.
  • Sleep disruption. Some children may experience more frequent nightmares or insomnia and may appear tired.
  • Frequent absences or unusually poor performance at school.
  • Lack or personal care or hygiene. A neglected child may be consistently dirty or lack appropriate clothing for the weather.
  • Risk-taking in older children. May include drug use, attempts to runaway or harm himself.
  • Inappropriate sexual behaviors.

Monday, November 17, 2014

Tell Me Why You're Beautiful

My mother passed away in May.  I found it to be a confusing transition in my life.  For all the times my mom wasn't the best mom, there is one thing that she taught me that has shaped the person I have become.  It is the one thing I will pass onto my children.

I had come home upset from elementary school after several days of relentless teasing for my severely crooked teeth.  I was maybe 7 or 8 years old.  My mom stood me in front of a mirror and told me to list all the things that made me beautiful. 

I told her that I had pretty eyes because they were a special color,  that my freckles looked like the sun had kissed me, that my lips were pretty because they were shaped like a bow.  Then I told her I was really smart and good at school, and that I was nice to everyone.

I asked her what she liked about herself, and she said her full lips, high cheek bones, dark hair, long fingers, that she could still do cartwheels with me, and that she was kind and helpful to other people.

She told me that when I look in the mirror I need to only see all those things that make me beautiful.  This is the foundation of my confidence, the surety of knowing who I am, and living my life  unapologetically. 

I hope to give my children the same gift of high self-esteem and confidence.  I regularly ask my children what things they are good at and what makes them feel proud.  I admire them and tell them why often.  When the time is right, I plan to look into the mirror with them, and ask them to tell me why they are beautiful.

Thursday, November 13, 2014

Some of My Favorite Things

I love this ice cream so much.  Blackberry anything, really.

I love several different types of accessories, with watches, belts, and scarves being my favorites.  My latest scarf from Gap…so soft!

Cozy plaid stripe scarf | Gap

My favorite lip gloss is YSL Gloss Volupte in Fouchsia Oran.  This gloss lasts through breakfast, coffee, water, and morning snack.  It leaves a nice stain on my lips and hydrates them, rather than leaving them sticky.  The smell and flavor are a cross between melon and pineapple.  You can buy YSL at Sephora or most high end department stores, like Nordstrom or Neiman Marcus.  I only own a couple of them because I think $32 is crazy to spend on lip gloss that I will likely lose.

Yves Saint Laurent 'Gloss Volupte' Lip Gloss Fouchsia Oran | Nordstrom

I love all things at Lush, but my favorite body lotion is actually a body conditioner from Lush.  You rub it on in the shower after washing, and then rinse it off, similar to conditioner for your hair.  I don’t have to apply lotion, but it leaves my skin soft and hydrated.  Plus it smells like roses.

Ro's Argan body conditioner | Hand And Body Creams | LUSH Cosmetics

My Kindle is almost as necessary as my phone and I feel naked if I don’t have it with me.  I really, really love reading serialized fiction.  Sean Platt and David Wright are great authors to start with because their writing is pretty good, the stories are interesting, the characters are strong.  Serialized fiction is similar to TV shows, and used to be how quite a bit of fiction was released.  You get new episodes every week or so and then a new season every 6 weeks.  Each season is only about $6.  I’ve read quite a few – Yesterday’s Gone, White Space, Available Darkness.  I’m currently reading Z 2135, book two of Z 2134, which is just a book series (think 1984 + Hunger Games + zombies), but still fantastic.

My favorite author is Octavia Butler because her science fiction is thought provoking and covers topics such as race and sex.  It is rare to have a black female write science fiction and her perspective is refreshing.  The dystopian Parable series is probably my favorite, but I also love the Xenogenesis and the Seed to Harvest Patternist series.

My favorite Pandora station is Classical Music for Studying.

My favorite chocolate that cures my sweet tooth:

My favorite movies are Chocolat, Under the Tuscan Sun, and Almost Famous.  Cliffhanger is runner up because I love the opening scene, as well as 5th Element because it is visually stunning.  To be honest, I don’t watch much TV, including movies.

My favorite snacks include Kind bars (Almond Coconut or Maple Pumpkin Seed), Little Cuties, Pineapple Chobani yogurt, and an avocado with lime/salt/pepper on it.

                  

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

It was itchy

Cooper wore a tutu to school yesterday.  Chris and I both did drop off at school because we had parent-teacher conferences.  Cooper is working above a first grade level in all subjects and his teacher seems to enjoy having him in class.  The biggest thing to work on will be to continually challenge Cooper, and help him learn the patience he needs to excel at writing.  Charlotte is working at a first grade level, although they are still having her work with an aide on reading because they don’t want to pull the rug out from under her.  Her teacher isn’t at all concerned about ADHD (a vast difference from the doctor appointment in the summer) and thinks Charlotte is doing great about staying on task and time management.  All of her teachers continue to say how much they love her sweet spirit and how good she makes them feel.

At the end of the conferences, Cooper showed off his ballet skills by attempting a pirouette.  The teacher seemed like it was all very normal for a 6 year old to wear a tutu, and asked him if he was a ballerino.  He said, “No, I just like wearing the tutu, ballet is kinda hard.”  I so often want to tell people that when they ask if I’m a ballerina.

Chris took them out the playground for 15 minutes until school started and I went off to work. Chris said that a lot of kids kept asking him why he was wearing the tutu and he just seemed annoyed that they were asking him the same question.  One girl told him it was weird, and another yelled ‘Cooper is a ballerina!’.  Chris mentioned that Cooper kept coming to stand by him, as though he were self-conscious, but overall Chris thought he handled it great by saying “Boys can wear whatever they want!”  Chris even had to answer questions from other parents and simply said, “We teach acceptance in our family.”

I asked Cooper about his experience with the tutu.  He immediately said he didn’t want to wear it to school today.  I asked why and he just said he didn’t want to.  I asked him if anyone said anything about the tutu, and he said, “They just kept asking me the same question over and over.”  I asked him what he said back to them and he said, “Please don’t ask me that question anymore.”  I asked how long he wore it and he said not very long because it was very itchy.  I told him I was proud of him for wearing what he wanted to wear.

He doesn’t seem to be acting any different on a large scale, but I can tell that he didn’t like the kids questioning his choice.  I don’t know that kids were especially mean about it.  He is very sensitive and cries easily, so I have no doubts he would have talked to us about what the other kids said to him.  I know it probably helps that the school has a very strong anti-bullying policy.  The kids take classes every few weeks on school values, such as: respectful behavior, anti-bullying (and being the person to stand up to bullies), listening, responsibility, etc.  Overall, I don’t think wearing a tutu had a major impact on him.  And maybe, just maybe, our world really is changing for the better. 

Monday, November 10, 2014

Boys Can Do Anything Girls Can Do

Last night Cooper slipped on my ballet tutu and started twirling around.  I could see his face light up when he did it.  It’s a wonderfully joyous feeling to twirl in a skirt, and even more so in a tutu.  He had me take several videos, one of which I posted on Instagram.

I love my kids. #coopertheballerino #cooperjacob #charlotterai

A video posted by Salina Derichsweiler (@twiceasmanymoments) on

He asked last night if he could wear the tutu to school the next day.  My immediate response was “YES!”, but my inner dialogue was more “Oh no, kids are mean and he is going to have his feelings hurt.  It’s not acceptable for boys to wear tutus and he doesn’t know that.”  

I started thinking about it – Why isn’t it acceptable for boys to wear skirts or tutus?  Charlotte gets to wear ‘boy’ things, so why doesn’t Cooper get to wear ‘girl’ things?  I had similar thoughts when Charlotte asked to get her ears pierced and Cooper made the same request.  I don’t have any good reason to say, “girls can, but boys can’t,” especially because a phrase I have hear often is, “Girls can do anything boys can do.”   The opposite should be true as well, “Boys can do anything girls can do.”  What if I was told girls aren’t supposed to be engineers?  Or Chris had been told boys aren’t supposed to stay at home with their kids?

So this morning, when he asked again, Chris said “Yes” as well.  We talked to him about how our family thinks boys and girls should be able to do the same things, but not everyone feels that way.  Sometimes people think that boys shouldn’t wear tutus or girls shouldn’t wear swim trunks and they might say mean things that could hurt our feelings.  We explained that he could choose to take the tutu off at any time, or he could tell people that boys can wear whatever they want.

I very much wanted to disallow him from wearing the tutu in order to protect him from hurt feelings.  Chris very much wanted to avoid him being labeled the boy who wears tutus, especially since he will likely go to school for years with all of these kids.  I won’t always be there to protect my children, and certainly not from getting their feelings hurt.  What I can give them is a true understanding of acceptance, respecting and responding to other people’s opinions, and a self-confidence to navigate the world.  Afterall, confidence isn’t, “Will they like me?”, but rather “I will, even if they don’t.”  

Sunday, November 9, 2014

Meal Planning

We have modified how we do meal planning over the last 2 years.  We started in 2012 with changing our dinner meals to be a protein and two veggies.  We used a white board calendar to make 30 days of ideas for the protein and then we made up the sides every night.  This meant I was buying a lot of groceries and ultimately wasting a lot of food.  The we switched to The Fresh 20 plan and really loved it at first.  However, after about 5 months we found the recipes to be too complicated to follow, some of the ingredients to not work for picky children (and adults!) which meant an entire week of hating our food, and the amount of food was too little for the level of workouts Chris and I were attempting to keep up with.

What I did learn from The Fresh 20 was how to properly meal plan for a week.  I learned how to make recipes that flowed in a week and how to make grocery lists to only purchase the food I need for a week.  I spent about 1 hour every Sunday planning the entire week’s menu, including the sides, and then making a grocery list. 

After about 1.5 months, we had a sufficient number of meals that I could just pick meals for 5 days without having to actually plan a full menu and look up new recipes.  We only choose 5 for the week because we find that we will sometimes have leftovers, have a ‘fend for yourself night’, or go out to eat.  We’ve also narrowed down our list to the things our (sometimes picky) children will eat on a regular basis without much fight or complaint.  I figure since I’ve already done the work, other people should benefit!  So here is the link to 33 meals…we sometimes swap out the side dishes among the meals.  (Let me know if you can’t access the file, I’m happy to email it to you!)

Saturday, November 8, 2014

New Hair!

A few months ago I switched to a new stylist after being with my old stylist for nearly 15 years.  I had been unhappy with my hair color results for nearly a year, and then one bad haircut made be avoid wanting to go back.   Additionally, my old hairstylist preferred my hair short and I wanted to grow it out, so overall it ended up being a poor fit.  Unfortunately, my relationship with her didn’t end well, but I don’t regret making the change.

I asked several friends whose hair I admire, who their stylist was.  I picked my new stylist based on proximity to work and home, number of years of experience, description and great reviews of the saolon, as well as my friend’s hair always looking amazing, especially the color.  I jumped right in and let my new stylist color my hair right way.  I really adore her – she is very easy to talk to, an interesting person, and incredibly down to earth, but very professional.  I look forward to getting my hair done again!  Chris has also started seeing her (he was a customer of my old stylist as well).

My new hair is fantastic.  See my hair evolution over the last year or so:

Sept 2013:

Jan 2014:

May 2014:

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July 2014:

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Sept 2014

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And my newest, Nov 2014!

Friday, November 7, 2014

Not as planned

Today did not go as planned.  I slept though my alarm, so I got to work late.  I had to leave early for my hair appointment and then I was supposed to meet Chris back downtown for date night.  We had tickets to see Lord of the Butterflies and to grab dinner beforehand.  Our babysitter cancelled last minute, so we decided to take the kids to the hibachi grill restaurant (they’re favorite).  The restaurant had a ridiculous wait, so we went to Noodles & Company instead.  I strongly dislike days like these.

Thursday, November 6, 2014

Conversations with 6 year olds

Cooper:  Can we have frozen yogurt after dinner.

Me:  There isn’t a frozen yogurt near the restaurant.

Cooper:  That’s because they closed.  They didn’t make enough money so they couldn’t stay open.  There are too many frozen yogurt places and sweets really aren’t good for you.

Me:  Yes that’s right.  Good job explaining microeconomics.

Charlotte:  The penguin frozen yogurt place is still open.

Cooper:  Why is the penguin place still open?

Chris:  Why do you think?

Cooper:  Because they have a lot of people and make a lot of money.

Chris:  Why do you think people go there?

Charlotte:  Because they like the frozen yogurt!

Cooper:  Because they have the floor light thing for the kids to play.

Charlotte:  Because they have a lot of fruit toppings.

Cooper:  And some sugary toppings.

Chris:  That’s right.  Also, they are near a movie theater.

Me:  What can you do after you see a movie?

Cooper/Charlotte:  Get frozen yogurt!

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Chris:  You guys have Turkey Trot coming up!

Cooper:  What is Turkey Rot?

Chris:  It’s Turkey Trot.  You win a raffle ticket for every lap you run and then they do a drawing to win a turkey.  Well a frozen turkey, not a live turkey.

Cooper:  Yeah, because you would have to roast the turkey to make it dead.

Me:  Well, first you would have to break it’s neck, then cut it’s head off, then pull it’s feathers out, then get the blood and organs out.

Cooper/Charlotte:  EWWWWW!

Cooper:  Turkeys are disgusting.  I do not want to touch their blood.  Vampires might though.

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

All About Make-up

There is a small secret you may not know about me…I have only recently learned how to really do my make-up!  I love all things fashion and beauty because it’s my adult version of coloring and dress up, which I loved doing as kid. 

I may have covered this at some point on the blog, but last year I spent time learning about my color season (True Winter), which has helped immensely with choosing colors for my wardrobe.  The pictures below are me without my hair and make-up done, draped in the True Winter palette and all of these colors make me glow naturally. Since switching out my wardrobe to my color season, I have never received so many compliments on my style/clothes/shoes/etc.  I started with this site and then went on a google search to find more information.  Draping colors on me was how I finally figured out my palette (see below).  Colors that weren’t bold and clear made me look very washed out.  The last thing I did was lipstick draping.

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Naturally this worked it’s way into make-up for me.  I began experimenting and tossing my old, cheap stuff for new, higher end stuff.  I couldn’t believe the difference between drugstore brand foundation, lipstick, eyeliner, mascara, and eyeshadow vs. brand name stuff.  My favorite drugstore brand is Nyx, and my favorite brand name is Tarte.  Although, I also use Revlon for lip products and a lot of Urban Decay, Mally, IT Cosmetics, Armani, Too Faced, Lorac, Benefit, and MAC for all of my other products.

So this is me experimenting with all different kinds of looks, including hair color and style changes.  I sometimes share the looks on Instagram, but also with other women online who enjoy makeup as well. 

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Obstacle Runs

Chris and I completed three obstacle runs this year.

We did the Rugged Maniac at the end of July at the motocross track next to Bandimere Speedway.  This was a really fun event – approximately 3 miles and 25 obstacles which made it basically a giant obstacle course.  The obstacles were fun and challenging.  We definitely plan to do this one again.

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I completed the rings without falling in the water!!  Big accomplishment for this obstacle run.race_156_photo_6755240race_156_photo_6755229

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In August we completed the Warrior Dash again (last year here).  This is 3 miles up at 8000’ elevation with about 12-15 obstacles.  They changed a few of the obstacles up this year, but the course was more or less the same.  We were really bored with this run and likely won’t do it again next year.

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The big one we did this year was Tough Mudder in September.  This is 11 miles at 10,000’-12,000’ elevation and 25 obstacles.  My goal for this was to complete it with a team which we did in around 5.5-6 hours.  Unfortunately half our team left us behind, which was really disappointing to me because that was why I wanted to do the Tough Mudder—not to mention most of the obstacles require team members to complete and that meant I couldn’t complete some of the obstacles and I hurt my ribs/shoulder pretty bad as well.  The best two things were that I made a new friend because she was on our team and her friend left her behind too, and we ran into an old college friend we haven’t seen in years and it was awesome to catch up.  I know I won’t be doing it again – I am not interested in taking a risk again at not having a team to complete the event, I experienced it and that was enough for me, and I don’t like the 11 mile distance.

The ice bath was absolutely brutal.  I am so glad Mikael reached in and pulled me out at the end because I couldn’t get my legs and arms to work.

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The log carry wasn’t too bad, but the different heights of team members made it annoying to carry.race_403_photo_9169823

Way to go Sophie for helping to carry me for the teammate carry.race_403_photo_9215153

Flexibility and lower body strength from ballet made this a mud crawl so much easier for me to complete.race_403_photo_9201499race_403_photo_9201539

Sophie and I both fell in on the monkey bars, but Chris made it all the way across.  This was a HUGE accomplishment for him after losing so much upper body strength from neck surgery in March.

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Monday, November 3, 2014

Phone Dump Photos

These are from April to August 2014.

We took the kids to an Asian Festival in July…mostly because their babysitter was performing at the Karate demonstration they kids and Chris take karate through.  Now they both want to work really hard so they can perform too!

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We have done some crafts with toilet paper rolls in August (rocket ship and car garage) and some science experiments in May (shear strength with non-Newtonian fluids, aka Quick Sand)

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We saw my favorite artist, Sarah McLachlan, in July and had amazing seats.

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The children swapped bedrooms for a night in June

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In June we went swimming at the outdoor neighborhood pool.

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In June Cooper decided he also likes makeup like Mommy, so now I keep a bag of play makeup for them to paint their faces/bodies/each other.

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Last days of school in May had Cooper being crazy as a pig.

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I received some beautiful watch bands for Mother’s Day.  A perfect gift for me because watches are MY accessory of choice.

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I also had Mother’s Day tea with the kids.

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Mother’s Day Comparison:

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In April Charlotte and I had a date day to see Rio 2.  I feel asleep during the movie and Charlotte said in a not so quiet voice – MOMMY WAKE UP!

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